I don t think many Japanese girls are into traditional relationships. Who the hell wants to cover up their devil horns so that they promise never to be jealous when their husband cheats on them?
Japan is a country of traditions and at time of weddings, there are very complex set of rules that need to be followed. So it is best that you do your research at each point. And no better way than to read about other people s experiences and if possible, get a Japanese friend to help you navigate the process. The first thing that you should do is to figure out how to propose to your girlfriend. You have a lot of freedom here since she knows that you are a gaijin and you might propose like a gaijin. But still, you can make it special for her by bringing out some of the traditions of Japan. So pick a romantic location, get a ring ready, and just say it the way you would to any western woman. The parents are the next step. And you should work with your girlfriend to make sure that that part goes right. It is highly unlikely that anything can go wrong but you can create a lot of goodwill by doing it the Japanese way, particularly if the parents are not familiar with western customs. What will be the most appropriate way is to have a small gift ready that you bring to her parents when you go to meet with them for this purpose. And you ask both the parents at the same time, but remember that in Japanese society the father is more important in such matters than the mother. If your girlfriend is willing to be present and facilitate the process that would be great but you are expected to do it on your own. If you need to write down the script and read it, that is OK too but even if you keep it simple and use your beginner s Japanese, you should do just fine.
i am japanese. we do have strong tradition, but there is not such proposal tradition in Japan. if you see japanese dramas, men just pop the question like americans do.
Perusing the mail-order bride websites, eh?
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